What you can’t get back

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This past summer when I worked in politics, I got myself a brand new blue suit. I loved that suit. It looked great on me and I never got more compliments on my clothes than I had ever before. It was a total stunner.

Fast forward a few months to when I am working at BMW and unfortunately one day I tore a huge gash in my sleeve while at work. I went to my local tailor who gave me the bad news that the jacket was toast. They couldn’t fix it and that based on where the tear was a patch would look not only awkward, but bad as well.

I was a little heartbroken.

After all it was my favorite suit! So for a while I just dealt with it, not having it to wear anymore. But when I got my real estate license and was signed up with a brokerage I decided that I wanted to look my best so I went and bought the same suit again. I had it tailored just like before and in fact, I am typing this blog while wearing it before I head out to work to look at Broker Open Houses.

Sure it cost me money, but I got my suit back.

There are lots of things in life that you can get back. A nice suit, a nice car, and even a nice house. Depending on how life goes you can lose these things as well, as maybe a simple accident at work ruins your suit, or some jerk not paying attention while tailgating you hits you on the freeway and totals out your brand new hot rod, or your family’s income might disappear amidst an economic downturn and you lose your house.

I’ve been there in all those moments.

But guess what? I got a new suit, I got a new car, and I got a new place to live again. All those things that were lost, I got back. Sure, there was a struggle, as there always will be, but I got them back. But there is one thing though that you can never get back.

That is time.

Every moment that passes is gone. It’s here. Ah. Now it’s gone. After you read my blog, you can’t get those minutes back. They are over. So I work to make my blog count and not waste those. Which brings me to crux of today’s post.

Managing Time is paramount.

And boy is it difficult. But the rewards are tremendous once you have it done. With a well scheduled day and solid habits of sticking to your schedule you are free to accomplish so much. But if you don’t plan things well and stick to timelines, many things are skipped or not attended. I have been struggling to budget time properly with my blog personally. Ideally I want to be waking up early every morning and getting this posted first thing in the day, not at 11:30 AM like today. But this is because I am not managing my time as best I can.

I need to get this under control.

Just one observation I have noticed is that ever since I have regularly posted on my blog every day my readership is at levels higher than ever before. People check because they know a post will be here. If I wrote my blog at the same time every day, I bet my readership would even go up more.

That is just one instance of where I know managing time will help me, but it can help me better in every regard. So, with that, it’s time for me to run off to work, and use the time I have left in this day wisely.

 

Keep Smiling,

Nolan

 

The Virtue of Temperance

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Today’s post is a solid one. It’s about a virtue that I personally really need to work on, and it’s a virtue that anyone who ever comes into any of sort of wealth needs to have unless they want to risk loving everything.

I am talking about the virtue of temperance.

This is the ability of one to abstain from an action or event; to restrain oneself if you will. Sure, it would be great to have another drink, but maybe that would be too much and then you wouldn’t be able to drive home. Sure it would be great to watch another Netflix episode, but maybe then you would stay up too late and wouldn’t be rested for work tomorrow. Sure it would be great to buy another car, but maybe that would be too much money you are spending every month and now you start to pile up debt and you risk losing both or all of your cars.

You can see where I am going with this.

Temperance is very important. It always has been and it always will be, but in today’s advanced society where so many material goods are available to so many people like never before in human history, I think it is more important than ever.

Today there is always the next phone, next computer, next fashion season, next car, next fad, next this, next that, next etc. etc. It literally never ends. There is always something to buy. And you need to ask yourself,

Does it make sense?

Now, as some of you readers already know, I am fiercely anti-socialist. I am very averse to the ideas that some people have too much and that necessarily merely because they have more than others they don’t deserve to have what they have and that it needs to be taken from them. Re-distribution of wealth is something that I find very alarming, but that is a whole other post; which will be written someday, maybe sooner than later.

In short, my stuff is my stuff and your stuff is your stuff.

Regardless of how excessive or how foolish it is. Just because I have a lot of computers does not mean that that is reason enough for someone else to have my computers. They are mine. I paid for them. If I don’t want to use them then that is my choice. They are still mine. Now it may be foolish of me to have them if I am not using them, and that is something that I cannot argue against.

This is why the virtue of temperance is so important. I firmly believe that it is totally fine for people to accrue whatever goods they want. They can do it. But that does not mean that it is smart. I would look at someone how has an excessive collection of something as impractical and not a good use of money; i.e. intemperate. That money that was spent on those items could have been better put to use in some other way: maybe in savings or in investments, or charity etc. And I am not necessarily the one to judge in that situation, but I think we can all attest to some moment where we or someone we know made unwise purchases.

It’s not that these purchases were evil and unfair, the people, in question spent their own monies on the products, but we know that they were unwise to do so.

Maybe they already had plenty of the product such that what benefit could getting another really add? Maybe a cheap high from the purchase, but after that not much. We need to guard against these feelings. Our wants literally never have an end. Human beings will never be satisfied. We are always hungry. Literally and figuratively. Just as we cannot eat one meal that will satisfy our body for the rest of our lives, so too will one purchase not satisfy us either.

There will always be something else that we desire.

And this is where we must be temperate. We need to realize this and be able to control ourselves. Our else we risk losing everything. We could lose our money if we can’t stop buying cars (which is such an easy to blow tremendous amounts of money, take it from me I used to sell BMWs and I have owned 2) or even worse we could lose our most trusted relationships, especially with our partners, if we can’t stop from desiring from other people.

Life is all about choices.

Don’t look at just your desires, look at the things that make your life work well, and that are smart for you. Sure, your desires must be part of your life. I am not advocating for buying a car that you don’t like, or for dating someone that you are not attracted to, but you need to realize that these are situations where you must choose.

You cannot change what you want, that often happens against your will. Every time I see a nice car, I think damn I want that. But, I know that getting it really wouldn’t keep me satisfied, therefore I need to be happy with something that is good enough.

Now this is much easier said than done, and that honestly is how I would sum up the virtue of temperance.

Easier said than done.

But if you can accomplish it, your life will be much better off. Much less stress from desiring anything and everything that comes your way but instead being able to be happy with moderated desires.

Well, good luck to everyone, especially to myself.

 

Keep Smiling,

Nolan