This weekend my parents came down from Oregon to visit me and take care of some business things as well, but I like to say mostly to see me. Hahaha but I really do appreciate these weekends more than ever because
I absolutely love my parents.
I really do mean that. And especially considering that since I moved back to Los Angeles I don’t get to see them that often anymore like I did when I used to live with them in Oregon.
Now my parents are in their 70s, much older than most of my friends parents, so being real I cherish every moment I get to spend with them. It was also a large reason why I wanted to live with them back in Oregon for a good year and a half. But in the end it didn’t work out because the area was too isolated. It was a great retirement sort of community for my parents, but for me it was just too lonely.
As much as I love my folks, I need my friends as well.
So I moved back down to Los Angeles, which is where I grew up. Today it was particularly fun as I introduced my Mom and Dad to my best friend John and his parents for the first time. I had always wanted them to meet in the past but it just never ended up happening. However, today it did and we all chatted for hours.
It really was a great time.
Now my parents are taking a nap, I told you they were old, (Mom if you are reading this you are still very young and beautiful) and then I stepped out with John to grab a drink and write this post before I meet my parents later tonight for dinner.
All these experiences that I get with my parents when they come back and visit are very precious to me, especially those with my Father because I have found that he really has not only great life advice for me, but also good sense of what is a good deal or not. This weekend we had been looking at places for me to rent and so far I found one apartment that worked out. However, after meeting the woman she had her reservations about whether I could make the payment. Now, my parents also met her and we informed her about our family business and such and our situation. Still, she called me today and wanted more proof that we could make the payments. My Dad then made the comment to me,
“Nolan if this woman can’t see your character after meeting you, and meeting us, and going through all that yesterday, this may not be the type of person you want as a landlord. She is a straight business type, no heart. So you might very well find yourself dealing with a landlord that is always looking over your shoulder.”
When my Dad said this to me I knew that he was immediately right. I know for a fact that I would like to have a landlord that is excited for me to rent their property, as I will be honest, I take care of my places and I am a stand up guy. I really don’t want to have someone who is always watching over me potentially nagging at any missteps I might make.
I listened to my Dad and called the woman and respectfully withdrew my offer to rent her place.
It’s times like these where I really value my parents, because they have my best interest at heart and they are always looking out for me. I want to have their opinion on everything while I can still get it.
Because they have seen a lot more than me.
And I hope that if I ever become a parent myself that I will do the same and look out for my children in a similar manner. Hopefully my children will be as interested and attentive to listen to me as I am to my parents. But I will be honest, that took some growing up to do. When I was younger, especially in high school, I didn’t give a rip. (As my Mom says lol.)
But as I grew older I realized their wisdom and their older perspective. And while back then I would contest their points, often I defer to them now. With that I will conclude my post, I love my parents so very dearly much and I am fortunate to have them. I really do feel for those that never got to have parents as such as mine, and I really wish that more families would stick together and make their marriage work in such a way to benefit their children as mine did for me.
Because, nothing beats that.