Breaking Up is part of Growing Up

Today my girlfriend broke up with me. It’s a shame that it didn’t work out, and if only it did, but that is just sometimes how it goes. You date people, sometimes it goes well, other it doesn’t, or people make mistakes, or things just happen, but again that is just how it goes.

But it is part of life, and most importantly part of growing up. And this is what I am focusing on right now. I’m conciously thinking about all the things that I did wrong in the relationship and where I could have acted differently. I wish I didn’t make those mistakes or that I acted differently, but alas the time for that is past and now it is my responsibility to ensure that I don’t repeat these in the future.

Every person is going to make mistakes in life and especially when it comes to dating, but fools are those that repeat them. The end of every relationship is a very important moment because it is a miniature death of sorts. One has a part of himself or herself die, (the other person in the relationship) and now one has to learn to live alone and start to think about a future union of sorts.

This moment is very important as it one of those rare times in life where humans are forced to reflect on themselves.

So now is time for reflection and over the next days, weeks, and months I will learn more about myself; my mistakes and also my priorities in relationships.

In the end it was a tough day, but it was a good day. It’s time to grow up and learn from this relationship.

Keep Smiling,

Nolan

Getting Back into Jiu-Jitsu

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Last week I got back into Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, and I am extremely excited. Jiu-Jitsu is extremely useful for fighting and self-defense, it is fantastic exercise, it is a great sport, and it is an amazing way to meet new friends. I am very glad to be back into it.

I started doing Jiu-Jitsu about a year and a half ago but I had to drive quite a distance to train and this was back when I lived in Oregon which meant driving through the snow during the winter months of the year. This meant that sometimes I went and other times I did not, but now that I am back in Southern California and I do not have to worry about snow or the distance, it is easy to train.

In addition to the ease of access, I really love my new gym so far. Caique Jiu-Jitsu in Lomita California has been amazing. They offer 20+ classes each week so it is very easy to find a time that works best for me. The gym also has a detailed white to blue belt program that gives new students a timeline that they can effectively put themselves on and look forward to a reward. Now some students may get stripes on their belt quicker than others, and some longer than others, but based on the class organization and the frequency of them, it adequately gives students something they can look forward to.

My last gym did not have a belt stripe system (stripes are given as students prove they are more proficient in the martial art) and instead they were given at my teacher’s discretion. In my opinion this is not a very good system to go by because it really discourages new students. I never had any idea when I was going to get a stripe (if I was going to get one at all) and there were no clear lessons or techniques that I had to know to merit getting one. In the end I never got a stripe, and this definitely made me lose interested in Jiu-Jitsu. Now I do not necessarily think that I merited a stripe, but I had no idea where I was as a student and every time I went to class it seemed like a stripe was something that was unattainable. It just felt as if I was never going anywhere.

That is why I like Caique’s system. The classes are structured to teach the fundamentals of Jiu-Jitsu and additionally they are very repetitive. This at first may sound bad, but the repetition is very good. This was something I lacked from my last gym as the classes would move around would teach different things every day. At Caique’s gym there are many classes that range from fundamentals, to striking, to advanced, to etc. So if I go to the fundamentals classes over and over again I know I will learn them. Already my fundamentals such as shrimping, knee on stomach, and side control, and ki-locks are improving much more so than before.

I just keep this up going to classes regularly, at least three to four times a week and before I know it I will be a one stripe white belt! And even though it will be a relatively minor accomplishment, it will feel very good.

 

Keep Grappling,

Nolan

You just got to love people

Sometimes people do everything in the world for others, and then they stab you in the back. You just got to love people. Right?

Always remember, that some people out there look for others to take advantage of. Whether this is emotionally, financially, etc. Always watch out, keep your guard up, and look for suspicious signs. When you see them, say something. Don’t turn a blind eye just because you don’t want to believe it.

If you see something, say something.

Who knows how much you might help someone that you know, or even how you might helps someone that you don’t know.

 

-Nolan

Up and At Em

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Ever since college I have had a bad habit of sleeping in. Prior to this I woke up nice and early everyday in high school. This was because I had to get a parking spot at my school 20 minutes away from my house. I had no choice.

But in the end that was totally fine! That parking spot got me up and out of my bed everyday and in the end I felt great. I didn’t waste my days and I had so much more time to use. But then college happened. I didn’t need to drive, I just walked to class. And there were times where class didn’t start until 10:30 or later, so why even get up? Thus my bad habit was formed.

Ever since then I will just sleep in unless I have a reason to get up. If I don’t have work or a meeting or whatever, then plop I am not moving. But now I have started Jiu-Jitsu again! And this new dojo has morning classes at 7:00! I could not be happier. Right now I am up and out of my bed, I have showered, I am eating my snack, and then I am about to head out and train.

Today already feels amazing and that I am primed to have a great day. So cheers to waking up and not wasting the day everyone.

Carpe Diem,

Nolan