Thinking too Much

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Everybody thinks too much. I do too. That’s actually the source for this post. I was wondering what to write about, and then I thought that’s it right there. Thinking.

Sure it is good to think, but like my previous post about ideas versus reality, you need to actually do things. Thinking is great when it leads to doing, but when it becomes the reason you do not do something, or it causes you to not do something properly, then you have a problem.

So many people never ask out that girl or guy they like because they think about how they have to do it the right way, or what will happen if you say the wrong thing, or that they need to wait for the right moment. All that really is required is just going for it. Don’t spend forever thinking about it this and that and then messing it up. And by the way in my opinion the biggest way to mess things up is not even try them.

It may be cliche, but Wayne Gretzky’s famous quote “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” rings true. Not acting is a failure. So remember that next time you see someone you want to ask out. If you don’t go for it that is worse than being rejected. If you get rejected at least you tried.

So don’t overthink scenarios like that. Just give them a shot and see what happens. And if it does not go the way you would have hoped, at least you have a learning experience and you can then extract a lesson from it. I mean, hopefully.

I used the example of a date for this post because it is an example of thinking too much that I know a lot of readers would be able to relate to. Most of us have been there, thinking about asking someone on a date but we didn’t because we focused so much on what we thought could go wrong versus actually going for it. So let that be the example of what not to do. Life is about doing. Don’t wait for the perfect situation to line up, or think about things so much that nothing ever comes of them.

If I always operated that way my blog would not exist. Sure I bet some posts would be better, and definitely more structured, but then I might not even have a blog. The beauty of any blog is that I just write when something comes into my head or when I sit down at my computer. I don’t think too much, I just do.

And that is something I recommend to everyone. Stop thinking so much, just get to doing. And if you make mistakes, that is how it goes. Learn from them, and do again.

 

Keep Smiling,

Nolan

Having a Restaurant to call home

I’ve never been that guy that goes to “his bar.” I barely drink anyway so I thought what’s the point of going to a bar? But then I found Ryo Zan Paku.

It’s the perfect little place. My brother Alex, who has been a frequent patron of Ryo for a long time introduced me to the place. I really loved it, but I never went there on my own or anything.

Then one day I was in between jobs and I decided to stop by and grab a quick bite to eat while I read a book.

Then I was hooked. The owner Koji befriended me and soon roped me into the fantatsic place that is Ryo. I have never been able to quite escape, and that has been fine with me.

The food is fantatsic, it’s the most authentic Japanese cuisine I have ever had and it’s not expensive either! I know that’s the real kicker. Most of the time Japanese food costs you an arm and a leg, but not here. Thank you Koji!

The interior decor of the place is another great part of the place. It literally is exactly how an Izakaya (Japanese pub) looks like on Japan. And the way I know this is true is because I have talked to multiple Japanese patrons who tell me they come to Ryo because it makes them feel like they are back in Japan.

You sure as hell can’t beat that vibe.

So if you are ever in Los Angeles, in the South Bay area, you must stop by Ryo Zan Paku. It’s simply fantastic. You might even get to meet me, I’m here all the time.

Now I’m wrapping this post up to eat some sushi with my brothers,

Keep Smiling,

Nolan

Falling in Love with Ideas

I find that it is fairly easy to fall in love with ideas. And this can be good, but it also can be very dangerous; chiefly because ideas can often not be real. Sure, it might be nice in theory, but is that how it really is? Or how it really will be?

I thought about this a lot today in the car listening to a song that I had never heard before. It was an electronic pop EDM style song, and while I did not particularly like the drop, a few words really hit me. The artist sang something like

“I’m not sure if I’m in love with you, or if I’m in love with the idea of you.”

That’s when I started to reflect. It is easy to think about ideas and then get lost in them. Ideas of what love is, or what being a man is, or living up a certain creed, or how to be cool, etc. Often times these ideas aren’t reflection of how we are, or how we really should be but yet we try to live up to them.

This can make lead to bad scenarios. For example, someone is told that if you are in a relationship you should do X, Y, and Z, or that you should feel T, U, and V, but you don’t want to do any of those things or even feel the way you should. But yet, you feel that you cannot act this way because it does not fit into the “idea” of what love is.

Voila you have a recipe for disaster.  Because, then you aren’t being you. And when you aren’t being you that is a problem. After all, you only know how to be you. So just be you. I get it though. It can be tough to be you when the ideas that are out there (in your head, your family, your society, etc.) are things that you only fail to live up to. Sometimes it can cause a source of guilt. Other times it can cause you to live a double life.

But these are for another post, another time.

To sum up, the song really hit me clear. You shouldn’t fall in love with an idea. You should be falling in love with the “Rea,” something real. Focus on reality, even if it may not conform an idea. Maybe then that idea isn’t worth keeping.

 

Keep Smiling,

Nolan

Enjoying Freedom

Man, a lot of things sure have happened since my last post. My M4 was totaled, I bought another BMW, I was offered a job selling insurance, I quit my job at South Bay BMW, I passed my insurance license test, then I turned down the insurance job as well, and then some.

All of those events in themselves will make complete blog posts alone, so I won’t get too into depth on them now as I will return to them later. I promise.

These last few days I really noticed what I have enjoyed the most, and that is freedom. For the past five months I was totally tied down to 9-5 (or longer) jobs where I had to be a certain place at a certain time as well as do certain things. Now that I am free from those jobs, it really has set in at just how awesome it is to be your own boss.

You don’t have to answer to anyone, or take anything from anyone. It rocks.

Sure there are the drawbacks. No structure is provided, and thus I have to be more resourceful. But, after these months with the different jobs I have worked, I have picked up new skills that I know I can implement much better than how I was doing it before.

This is why I am coming back to working on the internet again. Working as a blogger, streamer, youtuber, etc. is a brutal gig in its own way, as it is globally competitive, but the amazing thing about it is that you get to be your own boss.

And that is priceless.

It took not having any freedom to really realize how great it is. Now it’s time to never let go of it.

 

Keep Smiling,

Nolan